Today I will not be critical.

I bought this lovely deck of affirmation cards on a whim. I was shopping for tarot cards. Someone suggested I try $5 below as they had a few decks here and there and they would be inexpensive. As some of you may know, I experience shopping anxiety if I am in a store where the merchandise has been rearranged, if it's in disarray, or if there are hordes of other shoppers and the energy is chaotic. 

So here I am, in a store that is in disarray, full of hordes of other shoppers, and I can't find my glasses so I'm just wandering trying to find anything that looks like a tarot deck. My eye catches this lovely teal colored box, with a panda dancing on a rainbow, and I grab it and run to the cashier station.  

Story for another time, I am chagrined to see that they no longer have actual cashiers, the entire operation is now self checkout with 1 clerk supervising the shoppers. I ring up and pay for my deck and beat feet out of there.

Upon arriving home, I retrieve a spare pair of glasses and examine my treasure. What a lovely deck full of beautifully written affirmations! 

I like to offer all of my guests the opportunity to draw a card. So far, every guest has pulled a card that is oh, so relative to whatever they are managing or manifesting at that time! My son and I usually draw a daily card just to set our compasses each day. I have also gotten into the habit of having my yoga students draw a card and use that to set intentions/lessons for the class. 

"Today I will not be critical," says this morning's card. It follows with, "Today I will not be critical of my appearance or actions. I am perfect the way I am."

Boy, that is NOT where I thought that card was going to go. I assumed, upon reading that title line, that it was going to be a message about not judging others. What a reminder that criticism of others is an extension of a deep dissatisfaction with our own selves. 

How often do you hear your inner voice making harsh judgements about yourself? I often catch myself saying very demeaning things about myself. Most of these painful thoughts and ideas were planted there by others, as hurt people often hurt people. But when we are not being the best versions of ourselves, it is easy to believe and internalize these weaponized words. 

I was just watching Pretty Woman the other day and there's a line where Vivian tells Edward, "the bad stuff is easier to believe." I recalled hearing many of my superiors using the old military standard, "One 'Oh Shit!' can erase a thousand 'At-a-Boys'." Now, the math may be off by several hundreds, but the sentiment is real. The samskaras produced by negative encounters/outcomes seem to be so much stronger and more deeply entrenched than the positive encounters/outcomes. It takes a disciplined practice for most of us to counteract that negative track in our inner voice.

Practicing compassion for yourself and others can help to reverse this affect on your psyche. One of the easiest and hardest practices for cultivating compassion is the Loving Kindness, or Metta, meditation. There are many formats for this meditation, but the basic premise is to think of yourself and then those you encounter on a regular basis in a loving way, especially those with whom you've had negative encounters/outcomes. Here is the version I practice most often:

First, find a quiet space where you will be undisturbed for about 5 - 10 minutes. You may choose to sit on the floor, a meditation pillow, a sofa or any place where you can get comfortable and sit up with healthy posture. If you struggle with sitting up on your own, find a spot where you can gently lean on support, like a wall or a headboard. Set an intention that your meditation will help you cultivate compassion. You may choose to close your eyes, or light a candle and focus on the flame.

    1. Start by focusing on yourself. I like to picture myself sitting in front of me, facing me. I usually focus on my other self's third eye, the space between the brows. Then I picture myself drawing in love with each in breath, and exhaling loving kindness, surrounding my other self with that energy. Once I have surrounded myself with loving kindness and saying to myself,

        "May I be safe, May I be healthy, May I be surrounded by love, May I live in peace."

    2. Next I focus on my beloved. This can be anyone with whom you share an intimate closeness; your partner, your spouse, your lover, your best friend. Again, I like to picture them sitting in front of me and I begin with drawing in love, and sending that love out to surround them. Now say to them,

        "May you be safe, May you be healthy, May you be surrounded by love, May you live in peace."

    3. Next I think of my teacher, or teachers. Those individuals who have had a significant impact on raising my level of awareness and increasing my knowledge of myself and the world around me. My light bringers. Picturing my guides sitting in front of me and drawing and giving love/loving kindness I say to them,

        "May you be safe, May you be healthy, May you be surrounded by love, May you live in peace."

    4. After that, I think of someone with whom I have an acquaintance. Someone who I know a little about, but don't have an intimate friendship with. This person could be your letter carrier, an    attendant, a receptionist, or even the cashier at your daily coffee spot. Beginning with the receiving  and sending of love/loving kindness and then saying to them,

        "May you be safe, May you be healthy, May you be surrounded by love, May you live in peace."

    5. The next person to give love/loving kindness to is often the most difficult, but is, in my opinion, the most important, someone with whom you've had a negative experience/outcome. Picture this person who has caused you pain in the past. It could be something that recently happened, or something that you haven't been able to move on from. Take extra care to draw in enough love so that you pour from the overflow and not from your own resources, as you don't want to give away your energy, just a sharing of it. This is important with people that have hurt us, as we may have been in a relationship where we were constantly giving away our power. Once you have established your heart in love, send that love to this person or persons. Then repeat,

        "May you be safe, May you be healthy, May you be surrounded by love, May you live in peace."

    6. Finally, bring the circle back to you, always wrapping the loop back in to complete your work. Picture yourself, now beaming with love from sending all this loving kindness out into the world. Do your drawing and sending to your enlightened/glowing self and repeat as in the beginning,

        "May I be safe, May I be healthy, May I be surrounded by love, May I live in peace."

Practice this meditation as often as you can. Especially any time you notice your inner dialogue getting a little dark. 

    May you be safe, 

    May you be healthy, 

    May you be surrounded by love, 

    May you live in peace.

Namaste!

Thanks!

Thanks!

It's the one and only word that always comes with a memory - the memory of something good, something thoughtful, something helpful. Said from the heart, it's the best word to celebrate great endings or new beginnings. And it's not just a word, but everything it means: " I noticed..." "I'm grateful..." "You made a difference..." "I appreciate you, and all that you do."

I found the above written in one of my notebooks. If you are the author or you know the correct reference, please let me know in the comments so I can attribute it properly.

Socrates said, "You are not only good to yourself, but the cause of goodness in others."

Gratitude is one of those magical things, like watermelon seeds and acorns, that is such a small thing, but holds within it so much potential. It takes almost no energy at all to say thanks. Offering your appreciation to others is one of the easiest formulas for increasing a whole list of things, love, friendships, abundance, opportunities, etc. Did your lights turn on when you flicked on the switch this morning? Aren't you lucky! Clean water to drink? Amazing. It isn't difficult to find things to be thankful for. 

"It is not joy that makes us grateful, it's gratitude that makes us feel joy," Brene Brown

It's almost impossible to open any social media without being peppered with messages about how cultivating an "attitude of gratitude" will improve your situation. There are a plethora of apps for journaling your gratitude and keeping track of all the good you have in your life. 

"It is one of the beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

One of the 5 Love Languages is Acts of Service. This is the love language I speak. Being of service is a driving factor in what motivates almost everything in my life. I look for opportunities to do for others, sometimes as a means of avoiding my own issues, but hey, this is my dharma. I'm still learning to put myself on the list of those I'm "doing for." Often as not, I get just as much, if not more, out of being of service to others. I have a deep need to be of use.  I say this not because I need acknowledgement for my good deeds, but because I'm recognizing the need to balance that with recognition of all that I have received as well. 

Sam Friend teaches us that, "There is in each of us so much goodness that if we could see it glow, it would light the world."

What are you currently doing to cultivate an attitude of gratitude? The following are a few ideas that can help to create the habit of recognizing the things you should be THANKful for:

1. Gratitude Reflection, before going to bed, think of at least 5 things you were blessed with during the day

2. Gratitude Journal, using a notebook, keep track of things that go your way, and choose a time to review it, daily, weekly, monthly

3. Gratitude Cards, purchase a pack of THANK YOU cards and set a weekly calendar event to remind you to write out thank yous to those you are thankful to

4. Gratitude Letters, choose a person, or persons that have had a significant impact on you and write them a letter to tell them

5. Gratitude Jar, use a quart sized jar and write down the things you are grateful for and put them in the jar. When you are having a hard time finding gratitude, look thru the notes you wrote

Habits take time to become second nature. Take the time to discover what works for you. If you find it difficult to stick to your plan, find a friend or partner to practice with. 

"Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others." CICERO

What had happened was...

What started out as such a high quickly sank to such a low. Maintaining a positive vibration takes a LOT of focus. Cultivating a practice of being present is great, but then you have to actually BE PRESENT. 

Here's what I've noticed:

You can get a lot of dopamine hits from telling people you are going to do something, without ever doing the something. 

This is one of the flaws in the machine. 

When I was set free from my toxic workplace, I was also experiencing several other serious life changing events; I found and subsequently met my biological father, my daughter found her bio dad, but has not contacted him, and the search for my daughter's bio dad brought up some seriously traumatic memories for me that I had repressed for 35 years. 

The plan in the beginning was to take this time to sit with my feelings and emotions regarding all of this new information, process my feelings and emotions, and use this time to transition into my next iteration. This is not the first time in my life I have had to go thru this process. I have had to reinvent myself several times and each time I came out better than before. 

So I jumped in with both feet and had all this excitement around refocusing my energy. I was going to focus on improving my diet, my exercise regimen, my nutrition. I set up my office to be my writing station and I cleaned and organized my art room so I could easily get in there and work on my crafty skills. In the beginning it was pretty great. I was writing every day. I was learning new art skills. I was listening to the masters lectures and reading the spiritual writings. My meditation game took on a whole new level of meaning. I was eating well. I had all kinds of energy for exercising. I was set to succeed at failing once again!

And then what had happened was...

Insomnia is so devastating. It begins with waking up to a hot flash, but then the hot flash never stops. I just flush and sweat for 3 to 5 hours at a time, during which I CANNOT sleep. I CANNOT focus. I CANNOT do a DANG thing, until the flush passes. Which then results in an extreme chill that rattles my teeth so hard I'm afraid some of them will crack from the exertion. 

Sleeplessness causes all of its own dysfunctions, not the least of which is poor eating choices, which lead to indigestion, which leads to more sleeplessness which leads to more poor eating choices, etc. and so forth. 

I have been in the throws of extreme menopause for 6 and a half years now. I had my first hot flash on Nov 1, 2015. I distinctly remember waking up exactly 2 hours after I went to bed. The process is thus: I have an aura, which feels kind of like that prickly feeling you get right before you break out in a nervous sweat, and then my temperature spikes and my whole body is quickly covered in sweat. Once the flash is over, I usually fall back to sleep. 

In the beginning, the nightly flushes occured every 2 hours. After a while, they started happening during the day as well. The daytime flushes don't adhere to any schedule. They can come on several times in an hour, or not for several hours. I've tried journaling them to see if anything was influencing the onset, such as dietary or environmental influences, and the results were inconclusive. 

Add in to this disruptive process the constant changing weather we've been experiencing in Michigan this spring and the effect is intensified. I am solar powered. While I enjoy an occasional rainy day and/or thunder storm, I do not do well in the inclement weather. My mother suffered terribly from S.A.D. and I'm guessing that I do as well, though I've never had a doctor address it as such. I don't like to be outside when it is too windy, too cold, or too wet. Yucky weather is just a NOPE for me. 

On top of all of this, April has just been a very odd month for most of the people in my circle. Most of my yoga students have been going through their own stuff so I haven't had many students in my actual studio. This always takes a toll on my when I'm not at my finest. I have to constantly talk to my inner voice and tell her that this is not a commentary on how they feel about me or the yoga I offer, it just means I need to develop my services to be available in a more accessible format. 

This leads me to my latest decision: I'm going to have to learn how to use the interwebs right and properly. I am going to build my website, learn how to use digital formats and get my act out there. This is somehow terrifying for me, as a gen Xer, I am more comfortable with analog processes, even though I have been using the internet for more than 30 years! 

So, dear readers, please keep me to my word. Don't let me live on the dopamine high of SAYING I'm going to do this. I am sitting down today to write out a plan for how I am going to get a website together and how to get my products up there for any and all to access. Wish me luck!

namaste!

Bloom Where You Are Planted

Last night I participated in a lovely Full Moon Ceremony presented by my lovely teacher, Christie Jane Cairo of the https://www.momoyoga.com/the-christie-cairo-project/ . It was a dynamic practice of clearing all the weeds from your karmic garden to allow your inner lotus space to bloom. We started out by setting our intentions, creating a circle of protection and then bravely severing all the attachments holding us back from becoming the best versions of ourselves. 

We did an exercise where we wrote a letter to ourselves from our fears. Historically, I usually have trouble finding words when prompted in a class environment. I'm more of a secret writer. I usually like to hide in my office and clack away at the keyboard and let the words flow from my inner inspiration. But last night, I don't know if it was the protective circle, the presence of my lovely teacher, the friends and family that joined me in my space or just the combination of all of the previously listed inspo combined with this transformational energy that I have been manifesting, but man did the words come flowing!

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Here is my letter from Fear:

Dearest Michele,

I am your fear and I want to tell you this - I will ALWAYS raise the alarm when I think something might hurt us. It is the only job I have and I take it seriously. But as I see you getting stronger, and wiser, and braver, I understand that you will no longer be taking my feelings into consideration when making decisions. I want you to know that I am OK with this. I choose US even when I am standing in the middle of the rooming screaming at the top of my lungs, "STOP! DON'T GO THERE! DON'T DO THAT! IT'S NOT SAFE!" Please go boldly toward our best self. That's all I've ever wanted for us. 

Love,

FEAR

And here is my reply:

My dear friend Fear,

You have served us well over the years, my friend. You have saved us from so much pain and kept us from being hurt many times. But darling, you have also kept us from so much joy as well. 

Although I will never leave you behind, I think it's time for you to set down your gongs, your pots and pans, your klaxon alarms and bells and whistles. I've got this. You have taught us well. Our discernment is developing greatly. 

Now, my friend, is time for you to sit down, take a load off. Enjoy the ride. And if you can't enjoy the ride, take a nap, take your mind off things. I'll let you know when we get there!

Love, 

Me, gloriously radiant ME!

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There has been this theme running through the mindfulness circles this season. I have seen it repeated in the tv shows I watch, the movies, and books, even the music I'm attracted to. I've been listening to lectures from all the masters and gurus and it's the same message:

When will you get tired of trying to be the person you think you are supposed to be and become the person you always were meant to be?

I was watching one of my favorite shows, This Is Us. In the 5 or 6 seasons it has been airing, I think I've only made it thru 2 or 3 episodes without sobbing from the great messages of reconciliation the writers offer each week. This past episode, one of the main characters finally hit that point. Here's the scene, he's in a hospital room with a fellow recovering alcoholic. She's unconscious so he's just sitting with her and he starts to think out loud. 

"Do you ever feel like you're performing in a movie that no one else is watching?...Like you're always trying to do the right thing. You're trying to be the right kind of person instead of just, being that person...I wanna be the kind of man that does the right thing because it's the right thing to do."

Man, I really felt that. For some time now I have struggled with repeating the same old scene and ending up with the same results and I get so frustrated with myself for seemingly being unable to stop myself from ending up in these same toxic behaviors. I've been discovering a lot about my biological father, and unironically, he has repeated this same pattern throughout his life. Well, there you go, generational karmas? Nature over nurture? Just learning this about him made me feel so much better about my own struggle. Like, seeing that mirror made me feel so much less shitty about not being able to see every time that I was falling back into those patterns. 

The other day I shared a comic with my yoga tribe, it's from @dinosandcomics on IG. In the first panel, the raptor tells the T-Rex, "you just need to be yourself." and the dino replies, "I can do that." Then the raptor clarifies, "not your actual self, of course," he tells the T-Rex. "The self you would be if you weren't so shitty." Oh, how we let the world convince us that we are anything but radiant! 

For me, I have this tendency to view any attempt that falls short of perfection as a sign of what a failure I truly am. I tend to see these failures as an indication that enlightenment is unattainable and "not for people like me." It's terribly frustrating. I just sabotage any progress with my wrong belief that not being perfect means I can't be better. These pitfalls are so common that the masters all have written about them, but somehow I never identified with that message before this season. My teacher posted a lovely quote from Pema Chodron that really put me in my place!

"When people start to meditate or to work with any kind of spiritual discipline, they often think that somehow they're going to improve, which is sort of a subtle aggression against who they really are. But lovingkindness, or maitri, toward ourselves doesn't mean getting rid of anything. Maitri means that we can still be crazy after all those years. We can still be timid, or jealous or full of feelings of unworthiness. The point is not to try to change ourselves. Meditation isn't about trying to throw ourselves away and becoming something better. It is about be-friending who we already are. 

Who will you bloom into if you stop ripping up the sprouts with the weeds?

Namaste!

 

Love Everyone, Tell the Truth

Boy, oh, boy! When you make the conscious choice to step into your dharma, the speed with which the universe brings you the messages you need to hear is beyond measure. 

So here I was doing my daily ablutions this morning, just minding my own business. I was listening to a yoga lesson on Dharma. Ram Dass was talking about how after many days in retreat you start to finally let go of your distracting habits and feel that connectedness that only comes from getting still enough to hear your inner voice. He describes how the universe he lives in only has two beings left in. There is who he still thinks he is, the illusion, and there is "Sam," who you can call God, or the universe, or the Guru. He goes on to say that the universe he lives in exists only to bring him to the Guru. 

I was brushing my teeth at the time and I just burst into tears. This is becoming a common theme since I started my transformation. But here I was, choking and trying not to drown in my own delight and sorrow at this revelation. Now, I've heard this message several times. I TEACH this stuff all the time. I had literally said as much the night before during a Karma Conversation with a fellow traveller on the path. 

But here I am realizing the grace of the Guru, being washed in this loving wisdom and I continue getting dressed and ready for my day just awed at how simple, yet how complex this message is. 

Okay, so I'm thinking faster than I'm typing so maybe you aren't able to keep up with the transmission I am receiving but the only thing you need to know is, everything you are experiencing is bringing you to love you deserve. Don't sweat the small stuff, and it's ALL small stuff. The suffering you are experiencing can be remedied. The function of an incarnation is to end suffering. The method of ending suffering for each being is their dharma. 

Stay tuned for awesomeness!

Origin Stories

For a while now, I've been sitting on the knowledge that the man on my birth certificate was not my father. I can't say I wasn't relieved to discover that my    sister's narcissistic schizophrenic sperm donor was NOT related to me, but it did leave a pretty big empty space in my world view. At the time, I only knew that this father of mine was named Harry and that he had blonde hair.

Fast forward to 2006 when my son got his driving permit, we took a ride up to the thumb to visit my mother's high school bestie. Her and her husband were very close to my mom and knew all her dark secrets. They asked me at that time if I had any interest in finding out who my father was. I told them that I was honestly very trepidatious about the whole thing for so many reasons I won't go into at this time. But the seed was planted.  

In 2014, I reconnected with a man I had dated when I was stationed in Chicago. He was adopted so we had some strong trauma bonding over not knowing our parents. He had since then connected with his bio family and was encouraging me to do so as well. I thought about it for a long time before finally reaching back out and asking my mom's friends for any details they remembered. I recall I was a little scared they might reveal they still knew him. Alas, they had only his name, spelled incorrectly, and a few memories about the night I was conceived.

I started casually looking for him at that time. I still had all my trepidations so I wasn't pressing too hard on the search button, if you know what I mean? Still, the urge to know one's origins is as strong sometimes as the need to breathe! Years went by and I became less and less interested as the leads dried up in every direction.   

Then I lost my good friend this past December. He had reached out to me about 15 months prior to his death and we spent the last year plus on a roller coaster of emotions as we navigated the last little bits of his life. He once again pressed me to renew my search for my biological father. So, the week of his memorial, I took the plunge and ordered an ancestry DNA kit. The wait began.  

It takes the company anywhere from 3 to 6 weeks to return results, depending on their volume, I suppose. The price always drops at the holidays so I suspect there where a LOT of kits being processed. Shortly after new year, I discovered my daughter had also purchased a kit, but had never processed it, so I encouraged her to do so, and boy was that the right little ball of energy to engage!  

When I received my results, I discovered a first cousin right away. We connected through social media and tried in vain to find our way to our mutual family, me armed with the wrong spelling, and her armed with the wrong family tree (her dad, like me, was raised with a different last name than his siblings). So, we were at a dead end once again. Enter the ever-curious Emily!   

Emily had taken some time off from work and once she received her results went on a mission to uncover even the smallest clues and hints. Within days she discovered not only the correct spelling of my bio family's name, but all of my ancestors, including my father and most of his siblings. With that info, it was pretty easy for me to find a current address. This was the sum of all the info I could find on him. From what we could find, it appears my father and his brothers all remained unmarried, without any sign of children. He had 2 sisters who both married and had kids, and these were the only family members we could find on social media.   

So, I decided to write him a letter. Introduce him to me and send along photos of my mom, myself, and my children. I would leave it up to him to decide if he wanted to walk into that destiny or remain alone. I sent it by certified mail so that I would know he actually received it. And I sat back and waited. And waited. And waited. 

Turns out, he had recently vacated his apartment due to an increase in the rent and was staying a few miles down the road with his brother, the only other address we were able to find!   

I have been meditating and exercising and writing and painting and drawing and shopping and doing everything I can to keep busy as I waited to see what he would do with this information. I was doing my level best to avoid attachment to the outcome. I reread "Polishing the Mirror" by Ram Dass and I was rotating through a few of my favorite karma talks on YouTube. For my yoga class that week I had prepared a slow flow to help open hearts and planned to do the guided visual meditation in the early chapters of the book. I only had one student make it to class, but as she is one of my best friend cousins, I didn't mind at all. We chatted, and eventually decided to just do the meditation.   

I always find this meditation to be particularly moving. I would love to record it to be able to listen to it back to my self instead of always being the one reciting it, however, I've never been able to get through it without sobbing. About 3/4 of the way through, my phone began to rang. I barely glanced at my phone screen as I scrambled to send it to voicemail so as not to disturb the meditation vibes, when I realize the screen says Harry. Well, that sent my resolve straight out the door and I recited that last part of the meditation is total sobs. When I finished, we looked at each other and I said, "Oh my gosh! That was Harry, I think he just left me a voice mail!"  

My cousin asked if I needed a hug and we laughed at the absurdity of all of this! Even though she was planning on leaving right after the meditation, she offered to stay while I called him back. I was shaking throughout the whole of myself. I played his voicemail, noting his old man voice and chuckling that he sounded like an aging hippie who led a pretty wild life. Turns out I was not far off the mark.   

I always marveled at how much nature plays a part in informing who we become just as much as nurture. I was so amazed at each turn as I got to know my adult daughter and discovered which traits and personality quirks she inherited from me. Talking with Harry, it was equally as affirming to discover how many characteristics I had gotten from him. I'll save the details until I can tell you all about our first face to face meeting. We agreed to get together for lunch when the weather breaks, (he wants to be able to ride his bike,) so for now I will just revel in the knowledge that according to him, I laugh just like my great grama Lucille.

I Am

Here's something I've been working on since my violent ejection from the corporate world: releasing attachments. 

Currently I am re-reading Ram Das, Polishing the Mirror. I am remembering the advantages of living a life free of attachments. How quickly we can become complacent when we are miserable in our own skin. The Rat Race cultivates a culture of "do more" and "be less". I didn't fit in it when I was younger and less aware. And I definitely do not fit in it now, as I have lived a liberated life, and the amount of anesthetic it takes to forget that truth is toxic. Not only to your physical and emotional wellbeing, but you mental health as well, which mine vascilates from healthy to unhealthy pretty quickly these days. Eventually, your spiritual well-being is tossed into the pit and you just become a little less human with each passing week. 

Bleek, eh? I have a dark, edgy side that is usually just waiting for a biorhythmically low day to rear her ugly head. I haven't been sleeping well since I discovered the identity of my biological father, so my defenses are limited. I've barely had the bandwidth for self care these days. Thank Ganesha for my yoga classes so I am at least socializing a few times a week!

Anyways, the reason I popped in here tonight, as I said earlier, I'm re-reading Ram Das and I just love the line, 

    "I am" includes the fact that I do beautiful things and I do crappy things. And I am." 

The next section is titled, "I'd Rather Be Than Be Right." where he explains that by judging others, you are ranking yourself among others to see where you stand relative to them. This creates separation, which closes off your heart. This creates a perpetuation of their suffering and yours. Only by shifting away from the judging to a place where you can appreciate yours and their predicament open hearted can this open heartedness allow you to just be, without separatedness.

I know, deep, right? The Maharaj-ji tought that we should "love everyone, there is only one." I am you and you are me. We are everyone else. There is only one. That's a hard pill to swallow when you have endured a life time of trauma. Even if you've had years of therapy, councelling, teaching, meditation and self-awareness training to help you move past the trauma and function in society. Perhaps it's just that for some of us, completeness is not possible in this lifetime. For now the best we can hope for is to surround ourselves with the best support system and focus on the things in our lives that we DO want to expand!

Where intention goes, energy flows~~

Namaste